Do you know someone who’s self-centered and lacks empathy? Do they have such extreme self-involvement that they’re ignoring the needs of those around them? If any of this sounds familiar then you could be dealing with a narcissist.
Narcissism, depending on the severity, can actually be a mental health disorder. Some people may just have narcissistic traits, but they may still be destructive to those around them. Narcissists can be so consumed in themselves that they don’t see how their behaviors are affecting those around them.
The Bible says, “look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4, NIV). Narcissists have difficulty or, in severe cases, are incapable of this.
I once had a boss who is a narcissist. He made me feel like I was stupid for not knowing how to do certain tasks even though I was new.
I lost sleep over trying to please my boss. I never felt like I was good enough and he was a big reason I ended up leaving that job.
The Bible tells us that narcissism comes from the sin of pride. Pride makes people think that they don’t need a savior. They are their own Messiah so to speak. Pride can blind people to their sin. It can destroy them and those around them. And it’s important to always stay vigilant against pride.
I will give you 7 prayers for narcissists but feel free to customize them to your specific situations.
Short Prayer for a Narcissist
God, narcissism is a destructive mental illness. I pray for (name) who struggles with narcissism. I know this illness has damaged his relationships with his friends and family.
Please help him to see the sin in his life. Please place people in his life to help him overcome this illness and become a strong believer in You. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Prayer for Narcissistic Boss
Lord, my boss struggles with narcissism. He always looks down on my work. I feel inferior at my job because nothing seems good enough for him. My boss is very proud. He acts like I’m stupid when I ask questions and I just feel uncomfortable at my workplace now.
I need guidance on whether I should stay or leave this job. I absolutely love this job. It is a dream come true and I hate that my boss is tainting it for me. I hate that I have to give up my dreams because someone is so hurtful.
I want to stay because it is such a fulfilling job, but I cannot continue to be verbally abused. I’m emotionally damaged and it is hurting my other relationships. I don’t know if I can find another job. I can’t be unemployed. Please provide another job for me so I can leave this unhealthy environment. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Prayer for Narcissistic Sibling
Deliver (name) O God from his narcissism. (Name’s) behavior is hurting our family. It is tearing us apart and I don’t know how to repair the damage that has been done. Holidays are very stressful because we have to spend a lot of time around him.
(Name) doesn’t see how his behavior affects the rest of us and it’s getting challenging to be around him. He is my sibling so it tears me up that I feel this way about him. I don’t want to the kind of person who cuts off a family member, but if the relationship continues this way then it may come to that.
Give me the wisdom to know how to navigate this relationship. Help me to love my sibling fiercely and be a witness of your love. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Prayer to Forgive a Narcissist
My God, I have been deeply hurt by a narcissist. I want to forgive them so that way I can move past this hurt. I harbor a lot of anxiety and trauma from the abuse I endured from (name). I have gone to a therapist and they said I should I work on forgiving (name).
Lord, I don’t want to only forgive because my therapist says I should. I need to forgive because You call us to forgive one another.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13, NIV).
Help me to draw upon these words as I work to forgive (name). In all of my sin you always embrace me. You gave your life for me. Help me to remember that huge sacrifice as I make this small sacrifice of forgiving someone who has hurt me. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Prayer for Narcissistic Partner
Lord, my (spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend) is a narcissist. He was so charming at first. We got along so well. I thought some of his quirks were endearing. It was nice to not have to constantly come up with conversation starters. Somewhere along the way things have gone awry.
His easy going chatty behavior became domineering and controlling. His pride got the best of him and he has been steam rolling me ever since. When I try to explain my side of things he just blows me off. He has no empathy! I’m falling to pieces and don’t know what to do. God I need your guidance.
I don’t know if I should leave or stay in this relationship. I have invested so much time and emotions that it’s not easy to let go even though it seems right to leave. Life is messy. Please God, help me to be attentive to your voice so I know what to do. In Your Name
Prayer for Deliverance from Narcissist
Lord, please deliver me from the narcissist in my life. I can no longer be around them. The relationship is abusive and I need out. I am anxious, but don’t know what to do. I need your help to get out of this situation. Please give me the grace needed to move forward.
Please place someone in my life who can help me to get out of this situation. I know You will help me and that sometimes comes in the form of a person here on Earth. Give me the ears to listen to Your wisdom and those around me.
Help me to know how to move forward. Ultimately, I pray for (name). Please help them to change. Give them a heart for You alone. Help them to see their sin so that they can mend the relationships in their life. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Prayer for Confronting a Narcissist
Good and gracious God, I cannot go on any longer with the narcissist in my life. I need to address with them how I am feeling, but I don’t know how to do it. I need your help with how to confront them. Please give me wisdom as I prepare to share with (name) how I am feeling about their behavior.
I am scared he will brush me off like he has many times before. I also don’t want to come off too combative or accusatory. I don’t want him to feel like a terrible person even though he has made me feel kind of terrible lately. I simply want to express how I feel so that things can hopefully change.
Please give me the courage to bring up to (name) how I am feeling. Part of the problem is that I am passive. Please give us an opportunity to talk. May the Holy Spirit be present and all consuming during our conversation. I need all of your strength and wisdom as I have this conversation.
Please help me to be assertive and calm. Give (name) the ears to listen to what I am saying and know that I am only doing it out of love. I want heaven for (name), but they way they treat people says otherwise. Help me, Lord, most of all to be a loving brother/sister in Christ.
Prayer for Protection Against a Narcissist
My God, I pray for protection from (name). You are my rock and my refuge. With You I am safe. I can always come to You to share my thoughts and feelings. I know You alone are enough, but sometimes it doesn’t feel like enough to get through the time I have to be around (name).
I know you will protect me. I will draw upon these verses in times of weakness:
“For the LORD your God is He who goes with you, to fight for you against your enemies, to save you” (Deuteronomy 20:4).
“But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one” (2 Thessalonians 3:3).
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1).
Thank you Lord for Your comforting words and for always being faithful to me. In Your Name, I pray. Amen.
Narcissism is a destructive personality disorder. Someone who struggles with this can be very difficult to be around, especially if you feel they’re working against you. In these situations, it’s best to seek refuge and guidance from God on whether to continue to spend time around this person.
As Christians, we are called to love everyone, but sometimes this is best done from afar if the relationship with this person is affecting your mental or physical health.