I love that we can pray for marriage intimacy. I can remember being a young wife and wanting to be a good wife but lacking the desire to be intimate.
Don’t get me wrong I loved my husband. I had no doubts that God had put us together for a reason. But there was a combination of things that caused me to not want to be intimate. Maybe you can relate?
The long nights with little ones left me exhausted. My body being pulled, sometimes literally from little hands, in so many different directions, left me wanting to have my own space.
The thoughts running through my head, let’s be honest the lies running through my head about my body, didn’t make me feel desirable. And if we are being honest even after years of marriage and not having these excuses of little ones I still struggle with marriage.
When I look at my excuses though I see that I am following my own logic and feelings and not trusting God and all His goodness laid out in marriage specifically in marriage intimacy.
The evil one is sneaky and wants us to pull away from our loved ones in this area. He places the lies in our heads and allows us to think we know what is best for ourselves. But God is so good and if we trust Him He will help us in the area of marriage intimacy.
As a young wife, I can remember praying a similar prayer to these ones. I wanted to be intimate with my husband but I didn’t want it to be forced or faked. I didn’t know who to go to with such an intimate question, so I cried out to God. And He has been so good to answer this prayer over and over again.
We are glad that you are going to the God who loves you and wants your marriage to not only work but to thrive. He has big plans for your marriage and you have to trust Him completely. He will answer your prayers.
While this is an intimate subject if you would like to share with us we would love to pray with you. Please comment below your prayer request.
Short Prayer For Marriage Intimacy
Father in Heaven, you alone are Holy. You are perfect in all of your ways and I am grateful I can come to you in prayer. I am asking today that you help my marriage, specifically in the area of intimacy. I love my spouse and love that we get to spend life together. We rarely fight or argue but we are also not very close. I wish we were closer emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I know you will help me see areas where I can grow and pray you will help my spouse to grow as well. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Prayer For Emotional Intimacy
Mighty God, you have saved me from sins. You have rescued me from your wrath. You have given me an eternal hope with you. You have handled my greatest needs.
Today I’m praying for you to help my marriage. Sometimes it seems silly to me to be praying for emotional things but then I am reminded that you created me, my emotions, and these needs.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; (Ecclesiastes 3:4 ESV)
You meet all my emotional needs and I thank you for being a God I can come to. But you have also created marriage and desire in me to be close to my spouse, so I pray today you help me be more emotionally intimate with my spouse.
God, allow me and my spouse to be more vulnerable and trusting of each other. Give us opportunities to share and listen.
Sometimes, Father, I do not know what to ask for I just know it seems like we are missing out on emotional intimacy. So will you show me how we can grow in this area? I pray this in Jesus’ name, Amen.
Prayer For Spiritual Intimacy
Father, thank you for allowing my husband and I to both know you and have a relationship with you. (If your spouse does not know Christ as his Lord and Savior you must start there. You can check out this prayer article to help direct you on how to pray for your spouse’s salvation)
God, I’m asking today for a closer spiritual life with my husband. We can get into the routine of just going to church and reading our Bibles but not allowing it to affect our marriage.
I want to rid ourselves of the silly and meaningless conversations and replace it with conversations of importance. I want to speak about you and what you are doing in our lives. Will you please help us to train to do this so we can grow in spiritual intimacy.
Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather train yourself for godliness (1 Timothy 4:7 ESV)
I pray that your word works so deeply down into our hearts that we speak of you often. I desire that we love with your guidance every day. I pray you help us be more spiritually intimate with one another. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Prayer For Sexual Intimacy
Dear Heavenly Father, You have created sex as a good and beautiful thing in marriage. From the very beginning, your plan was that husband and wife would be one.
For some reason in our married lives, we have drifted from sexual intimacy. Where there was once excitement and joy in spending this time together there has been a feeling of duty.
I do not want to feel this way. Father, will you please help restore sexual intimacy in my marriage?
Lord, I know it goes beyond just enjoying sex again I see that this lack of sexual intimacy can be used by the devil to drive us apart.
Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV)
I ask that you help my marriage’s sexual intimacy for the health of our marriage, for our self-control, and for your glory. Amen.
Prayer For Mental Intimacy
Father, I pray that I can have mental intimacy with my spouse. My spouse is very smart and often times we are not able to have a conversation about certain subjects because I can not follow along.
I often times begin to drift in my thoughts during these conversations. God, I ask that you help me be attentive, even if I don’t fully understand or care about the subject.
Give me a selfless heart to listen well so that we can grow in our mental intimacy.
Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance, (Proverbs 1:5 ESV)
Flip Side Of The Prayer…
Father, I pray that I can have mental intimacy with my spouse. My spouse can not always track the conversations like my friends or co-workers can. So often I just shut down or don’t speak with my spouse because there is no mental intimacy.
I pray that you give me patience as I explain what is going on in my life. Help me to listen to my spouse well even when the topics he/she wants to talk about are not as mentally interesting to me.
Help me not to be tempted to go to others first for mental intimacy. I want to connect with my spouse in this way, even if it takes more work to do than with others.
Father, I ask that you help us grow in mental intimacy. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Closing Thoughts
Intimacy with our spouse is important because it connects us with them in a way that we are not connected with anyone else.
God designed marriages this way as we can see in Genesis.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 ESV)
We are supposed to be naturally close to our father and mother until the time when we are married and then we are to hold fast to the marriage.
It is easy sometimes to connect with other people or withdraw from intimacy after a while with our spouse. But it’s good that you see a need to be more intimate with your spouse and cry out in prayer to God for help.
God, wants to restore marriages because they are a beautiful image of what Christ and His church are. It’s a covenant of steadfast love. God can use your marriage to turn people towards Him and can do that by growing in intimacy with your spouse.
If you would like additional prayers about being a good wife or good husband these prayers may help you grow in intimacy.
We would love to pray with you for this area of your marriage. Please comment below so we can pray with you today.
Please pray for a stronger connection with my husband in everything
Praying for you.